The 3 most important traits you need to have to lose weight and achieve anything worthwhile

(Spoiler Alert: motivation, will power, and self control did NOT make the list)

What mental characteristics do you need to lose weight?  

More willpower?  Nope.  

More self-control?  Nope.

More motivation?  Nope.

There are three traits that are absolutely essential that you need not just to “lose weight,” but if you want to lose weight AND keep it off.  

  1. Responsibility.

    If you are ever going to have any chance of losing weight, you have to be willing to accept 100% responsibility for your body and your weight.  This means no more blaming, no more b*tching, and no more complaining.  No blaming your schedule because you don’t enough time to exercise.  No blaming your family history or biology because everyone in your family is fat or overweight.  And no blaming yourself for your lack of willpower or self-control.

    When you take responsibility for something, you don’t blame anyone, including yourself.  You simply acknowledge that this where I am, and that where I want to be, I’m going to find a way to get myself from here to there.  End of story.    

    Taking responsibility is a sense of personal empowerment, it is a mindset that energizes you and propels you into action.  Blaming does just the opposite, it stifles your creativity and makes you feel stuck, trapped, or frustrated.  If you want to lose weight, rule #1 is you must stop playing the blame game.  

    There is no one to blame because the game isn’t over, your new body is simply a result you have not YET achieved.   The game is just beginning, and the game will be won or lost within your Mynd.


  2. Commitment.

    You have to be committed to your goal.   For most people, being committed is a scary proposition.  The idea of being “committed” often brings up ideas of being stuck, without options, or without freedom.   But when you commit yourself to achieving a worthwhile goal, commitment becomes quite the opposite; commitment becomes freedom.  

    When you are committed to losing weight, you free yourself to take action and to take unreasonable amounts of action, and to continue acting no matter how unlikely success may seem.  Heroes and upsets are born through commitments.  Committing to losing weight is a promise you make to yourself that you will not stop taking action until you achieve what you set out to accomplish.

    What commitment really does is that it empowers you to stop making excuses and start taking action.  And it absolutely critical that you are absolutely committed to losing weight, if you want to have any chance of succeeding.


  3. Purpose. 

    If you are going to successfully lose weight, you need a purpose that drives you other than just choosing how much weight you want to lose.  The important thing to realize about your weight is that it is a result of your actions, of your lifestyle decisions and choices, and it is a reflection of how you think about yourself and your life.

    You need a purpose that is not focused exclusively on your weight (on the number on the scale), if you want to successfully lose weight and keep it off.  Understanding why you REALLY want to lose weight is an important part of the Fat2Fit program, and an important part of you being able to succeed on your weight loss journey.  

    Why do YOU want to lose weight?  What’s your purpose?  


    What is your REAL reason for wanting to lose weight?  For 99% most of my students there is something more they wants besides just hitting a particular number on a scale or fitting into a pair of pants.  They want to feel more confident, they want to feel sexy, they want to set a good example for their children, they want to achieve an impossible dream such as run a marathon. What’s your why?  What’s your purpose?  Why do you REALLY want to lose weight? 

    I am not saying that you can’t want to lose 20 pounds, or 40 pounds, or 100 pounds, that’s 100% fine!  And to be honest, that is part of what initially drove me to want to lose weight.  But if that’s all there is, then you are going to rely too heavily on your willpower and self-control and you are going to run out of fuel before you reach the finish line.  

    Knowing your purpose is important because it is going unleash more energy and fuel that is going to drive you to greater heights of success than you can even now begin to imagine.  


If you want to lose weight and keep it off, the most important thing you need is a mindset of success, a mindset that is geared towards achieving your goal at any cost.  Your weight loss mindset however must be built upon the foundation of responsibility, commitment, and purpose.  

To learn more about what is required to build a Weight Loss Mindset click here.

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